Last week, I went to strike for a show that I designed. The day before, I was running a 101 degree fever and had to spend the day in bed. Day of strike, I had spent the whole morning biking around town, taking care of various errands, and then went to work for approximately 9 hours, and then biked all the way to the theatre under the assumption that I would be up and down a ladder for a few hours. Keep in mind, I feel shitty as hell this whole day and was fairly certain I was going to faint.
I tend to NEVER dress appropriately for the weather. God knows that’s true. But when it comes to work-related attire, I know when it’s ok to be covered in paint, or when you should be wearing some pantyhose. Therefore, when I know that my day entails being horribly sweaty on a bike for any number of hours, I’m going to work toward dealing with that. Therefore I was serving yoga pants and sports bra/tank top fierceness, which I usually do when I bike anywhere, and I just bring a change of normal clothes with me.
When I arrived at the theatre, ready to work, I was met with a sea of actors throwing back some brews. Which I don’t mind. But I really would’ve preferred to be in bed. Sick and dying. Where I belonged.
I busted out the work I needed to finish, and right as I was leaving for the night, one of the actors in my show came up to me, cackling, and blurted out the following:
“So what’s your deal, are you like always on the way to the gym or what?”
I obviously don’t feel like I need to explain myself to a sloppy drunk person who doesn’t know she’s being horribly rude. So I walked out.
This moment has sort of stuck with me the last few days. I would like to think I’m not that judgmental. (I probably am.) But I hope to be better than that, day to day. I also considered that I was taking that comment way personally, but what she said in front of a group of people made me feel immediately alienated. And sometimes it’s the other person’s fault. (And no, alcohol is no excuse for ANYTHING.)
Moments like that sort of channel into a personal reawakening for me. It reminds me that things we don’t understand don’t need to be scrutinized. If you’re genuinely curious about something, there is a classy approach to anything. And you always catch more bees with honey.
And if you’re gonna be a judgmental snatch to me, realize I’m going to blog about it.